It was the welcome back luau where he interrupted me. I was people-watching, thankyouverymuch. He came with this girl. A girlfriend? I had no idea. We had met before, they told me. Whatever. There were some weird twentysomethings in a hut tub that were absolutely fascinating.
Tell me about yourself, he says. Biola University. Journalism. Junior.
Nothing seemed to interest him, but he kept asking questions. My head would turn over to the hot, glowing, odd behavior in the bubbles.
What do you do? What’s your favorite color? Do you have a boyfriend? Why journalism? Any brothers or sisters?
Why would he ask me if I had a boyfriend? I had no time to think, there were more questions!
San Leandro. Used to run. Well if you used to run, he asked, what do you do now? Um … well … I think I might have failed my volleyball class, so I signed up for an Ultimate Frisbee class. He couldn’t seem to get the words out fast enough: Wednesday nights, at Las Positas? I was totally weirded out, but strangely interested as I said yes.
I’m the captain, he said. I think at this point he was hugging an inflatable parrot, but I’m not sure.
He first asked me to ice cream, which was smart because I don’t like coffee (and I had yet to discover the wonderfulness that is a frappuccino). The weeks following were filled with Ultimate Frisbee, random outings, college group nights, family houseboat trips and late-night movies. Basically, we spent a lot of time together, because that’s what people do when they live 7.9 miles away from each other. The summer hadn’t even begun to fade when I had to say goodbye to the bay and hello to smoggy L.A.
For the first time I didn’t want to go back to school. I had found so much at home that I had not known. Matt had shown me a different world in a familiar place. The more time I spent with him, the more I liked him. He treated me so well, much better than the other guys I’d met before.
We weren’t official yet, though. It’s not that we didn’t like each other. He just had bad experiences with long distance relationships. So we would test out the long distance — all 375 miles. And let me tell you, webcams work wonders.


But shortly after the semester began, we met with our college group at Hume Lake for the labor day weekend retreat. On Sept. 4, 2004, I begged him to go on a walk. It was close to the night chapel, but I knew that I’d have to say goodbye in less than 24 hours. And we found a big log near the water and sat; it was a perfect view of the lake. And there, he said he was willing to risk the distance relationship, and asked me to be his girlfriend. I’m not much for cheesy romance — which this wasn’t — it was simple and completely beautiful.

If I’ve kept your attention for this long, you definitely won’t stay for our entire story. I figure the telling of the beginning is just right for marking a year of togetherness.

To see more pictures of us — all that flickr would allow for this month — click here.